Dear Therapist: My Mom Won’t Stop Pressuring Me to Get Better Grades

I’ve wanted to address this with her for a while now, but I’m afraid she’ll scold me.

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Dear Therapist,

I’m 14 years old and I’m having problems with my mom. She constantly nags me about my grades not being high enough, even if I have gotten the highest in the class. She also keeps telling me to go out and run or to eat less to lose weight. I am heavier than some of my friends, but I’m not overweight. I remind her that my weight is fine because I’m strong and I dance a lot, but she doesn’t listen to me.

Even though she wants me to get top grades, when I study instead of going out and exercising, she criticizes me for being lazy. I study a lot, and I have a lot of hobbies, like making videos, singing, dancing, and much more. But I never have time for any of these, because I’m always being forced to work.

I’ve been wanting to address these issues with my mom for a while now, but I’m afraid I will be scolded by her. What should I do?

Dear Anonymous,

I’m glad that you reached out, because so many teenagers feel exactly as you do. They’re experiencing extreme parental pressure but believe that they either can’t or don’t know how to address it. And it absolutely should be addressed.

I can imagine how stressful and confusing these messages from your mom are, and how unpleasant these interactions must be. You say she doesn’t listen to you, so let’s think about why that is, and what might help her to hear you better.

Maybe we can start here: In her mind, she’s simply doing her job as a parent. If I were to ask her why she’s putting this kind of pressure on you, she would probably say that it’s because she loves you deeply. She likely believes that getting top grades and maintaining a certain weight lead to a happy, fulfilling life, and she feels she’s helping to guide you to that future. She might even believe that what you consider pressure is well-meaning “parental guidance,” and she may be baffled by what she considers your lack of appreciation for her attentiveness and care. All of this makes it hard for her to hear you.

What she doesn’t realize, however, is that she’s showing her love in a way that doesn’t feel loving, because it leaves you feeling unseen, anxious, and inadequate. For instance, instead of respecting your desire to engage in your interests and delighting in the joy they bring you, she devalues their relevance. Instead of showing pride in your academic achievements and how hard you work to earn them, she insists that you work even harder. Instead of admiring your beauty in a body that gives you strength, she urges you to become smaller. And perhaps most frustrating, she sets you up to disappoint her: If you study, you aren’t exercising enough; if you exercise, you aren’t studying enough. No matter what you do, you can’t please her.

The good news is that it’s not your job to please her. Nor is it your job to get the highest grades or have the slimmest body. Rather, the work of a healthy human is to learn how to please yourself—not your mom, your teachers, or society’s idea of what a woman’s body should look like. It’s to figure out what matters to you and to focus your energy in those directions. For you, what matters may be balance rather than undue stress, learning rather than a letter grade, growth rather than perfection, self-defined beauty rather than a rigid aesthetic, creativity rather than a constrained existence. Let those values be your north star.

So: back to your mom. Somewhere along the way, likely in her own childhood, a certain kind of achievement and appearance became very important to her. Maybe her parents put the same kind of pressure on her that she puts on you—but unlike you, she acceded to it without examining the consequences. Or perhaps her parents didn’t pay much attention to her at all, and she wished dearly for parents who were as invested in her “success” as she is in yours. I put success in quotes because for whatever reason, she long ago developed a definition of success that you are wisely questioning. If you get the highest grades but the cost is stress, depression, anxiety, and a feeling of never being good enough, that might not be a healthy definition of success at all. If you lose weight but end up going to sleep each night hungry, weak, irritable, and insecure about your appearance, that also doesn’t seem like the kind of “success” you should aspire to.

Up to this point, you and your mom have been arguing about her rules, but the real conflict—and the one you need to discuss directly—is the difference between your value systems. It might help to write your mom a letter so that you can express yourself clearly and without interruption, and explain to her what your value system is. You might start out by saying that you appreciate how much she cares about your well-being, and that you know she believes her efforts are for your benefit.

Then you can explain that even so, if her goal is to raise you to have a fulfilling life, the way she’s trying to help is actually making it less likely that this will come to pass. Let her know that you feel constantly stressed and overwhelmed, not because you’re a poor student, but because this intense focus on getting the best possible grades is interfering with the process of actually learning. Feel free to include some research on a growth mindset, which leaves room for making mistakes and learning from them, as well as studies on the positive outcomes associated with intrinsic motivation (meaning, an inner desire to learn) over extrinsic motivation (grades, parental approval). As for her comments about your weight, tell her that you’re happy with your appearance and appreciate having muscles that give you strength to dance well, and that you find her comments to be damaging and hurtful. You can also share that her expectations are creating resentment in your relationship, because when she is fixated on perfection, you start to feel that her love and acceptance are contingent on performance.

You might end the letter by explaining that the greatest gift she can give you as a parent is the freedom to be who you are—and to be embraced for it—and that you’re someone who works hard and does your best, but who also has many interests and who values making time for relaxation and fun. Tell her that it’s okay with you if she chooses to live her life differently from yours, but that it also needs to be okay with her for you to choose to live differently from her—because ultimately, you will anyway. And not only will you become a more whole human being if she supports you in this, but the two of you will have a much stronger relationship, both now and in the future.

Hopefully your letter will open up a different kind of conversation that will help create more understanding between you. And if it doesn’t, you might consider reaching out to a guidance counselor or another adult you trust for support in helping your mom to broaden her perspective. Either way, clarifying your values and advocating for yourself will be a learning experience you can’t put a grade on: Nobody gets to live your life for you.

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Are your parents constantly nagging you about your schoolwork? Do you often find yourself struggling to please them when it comes to your grades and success in school? It might seem like an annoyance, but parents are usually only nagging because they care. Still, there are ways to ease their concerns.

Finding a Compromise

Step 1 Let them know that nagging you isn’t helping.

  • You might say something like, “I really think that if you asked me a bit more nicely about my schoolwork, I would be able to talk to you about it more.”

Step 2 Agree to work harder on your schoolwork.

  • You might start a conversation by saying something like, “I’m sorry I haven’t done as well as I could have lately. I promise to start working harder and trying my best to get better grades.”
  • There are many reasons to work hard in school, and making your parents happy is just one of them. Working hard in school will get you ready for the future and for college, make you proud of yourself, when you get better grades and learn new things, and it could lead to more options for jobs and careers in the future.

Step 3 Come up with a schedule.

  • A schedule can serve as a record of all the work you have already finished. Not only will it feel good as you check off things on the list, but it can help you feel more organized and not lose track of things you still need to do. [1] X Research source
  • Make sure you keep to your schedule after you have made and posted it. It won’t help you if you don’t actually use it! [2] X Research source

Step 4 Check in with your parents.

  • This check-in might sound something like, “Hey Mom and Dad, I just wanted to let you know that I have a test this week, and I’m a little nervous about how I might do.” Or, “I’m feeling a little overwhelmed with my assignments in math, so I’m going to ask my teacher for some extra help.”
  • This check-in could be something you put on your schedule to do every few days. Don’t make it too formal or just about grades; let them know what’s going on in your day-to-day life, too. [3] X Research source

Step 5 Include your parents in your progress.

  • You might try creating a board where you keep track of your grades on major projects, tests, and assignments. Write the grade down when you receive it, and this way you parents can be involved and see how you’re doing. [4] X Research source

Step 6 Talk openly and calmly with your parents.

  • Avoid using irritated or whiny tones. Try to be friendly and positive, rather than argumentative. This will help them be more receptive to your point of view. [5] X Research source
  • Try starting with something like, “I know you’re upset with me and you think I can do better, and I know you are right, and that I should try harder.”

Getting Help With Your Schoolwork

Step 1 Find a tutor.

  • If you take the first steps to look for a tutor on your own, your parents might see this as a mature and positive thing.
  • If you need money for the tutor, discuss it with your parents before booking one. Ask at your school first to see if there are any free tutoring services they can offer.

Step 2 Study harder for tests.

  • Take effective notes in class and spend time each day looking them over, rather than only looking at them before a test. This will help you remember the material better over time.
  • Consider forming a study group with friends from school. Sometimes working in a group can be helpful and encouraging. Plus, your parents will see you taking this step to do better in school and might be less inclined to nag you. [6] X Research source

Step 3 Do all homework assignments.

  • Use your schedule to write down all upcoming assignments and keep track of them as you complete them and turn them in. Then, use your grade board to record your scores on these assignments.
  • If your parents see you doing your homework, they will have less of a reason to nag you about it. Show them you are capable of doing your work without being told to.

Step 4 Ask your teachers for extra credit.

  • Your teacher might be more willing to offer you extra credit if they can see you are genuinely working hard and doing your best through the entire school year or semester. Don’t do poorly the entire year and hope to rely on extra credit points to boost your grade at the end. [7] X Research source

Step 5 Put your schoolwork first.

  • Think about each assignment separately. If you have a long paper due, for example, don’t wait to start it until the last minute. Make it a priority to begin working on it well ahead of the due date.
  • If you put school first, you will likely start to do better, and your parents will have even less reason to nag you about your work or your grades.

Step 6 Create a routine for completing your work.

  • Routines can help build healthy and strong study habits. Once you spend a few weeks in the routine you create, it will become second nature, and you won’t even have to think about it.
  • If your parents see you getting into the habit of doing your work and working hard, they won’t have to spend time nagging you to get to work.

Working on Your Relationship

Step 1 Spend time with your parents.

  • Show your parents you appreciate and value them. Spend time doing things with them and having fun. It will help improve your overall relationship.
  • Use your words to let them know you care, and that you are grateful that they care about you: “Guys, I’m really grateful that I have you here to help me. I appreciate everything you do for me.”

Step 2 Be honest with your parents.

  • If you are consistently honest with your parents, they will begin to trust you more. This trust is an important part of your relationship, and it might allow them to give you a little more space. [8] X Research source
  • If you tell your parents you are struggling and why, they might be able to help you. It might seem like all they want to do is nag you, but they could potentially help you succeed if you let them know what’s going on.

Step 3 Keep your parents in the loop.

  • Your posted schedule can also help keep them in the loop. Let them know when you make a new one, and ask them if they have anything to add to it, like appointments or events.
  • Dinnertime is a great opportunity to talk about your day, what you’re working on, and how things are going.

Step 4 Respect their ideas and input.

  • Respect is a key aspect of any healthy relationship. Respect your parents, show them that you do, and they will be more likely to show you the same.

Understanding Your Parents’ Concerns

Step 1 Listen to your parents.

  • It might be tempting to jump in and interrupt your parents with your own ideas and arguments, but try to let them finish before you do so.
  • Actually listen to your parents, rather than simply waiting for your turn to talk. Listen actively, and respond. Try restating what they have said to let them know you are listening: “Mom, I understand that you think I have not been doing as well as I could…”

Step 2 Try to look at things from their perspective.

  • They are looking at your schoolwork as an important aspect of your life, one that might determine things about your future. Consider their perspective, and if you aren’t sure where they’re coming from, ask them.
  • Put yourself in their shoes. If you had a child who was doing poorly in school, wouldn’t you be concerned? You might want to know what was causing your child to struggle, and want to help them.

Step 3 Reflect on your own issues.

  • It might seem difficult, but becoming more self-aware is fairly easy. Try to be more aware of your thought process, and how you react to different situations. Try not to act out of a strong emotion, and take more time to think things through.
  • It’s easy to blame your problems and flaws on outside factors. You might blame your bad grades in school on distractions like your job, sports you play, or any other number of things. But before you do that, take a moment to think about what is really holding you back from doing well in school, and consider that it might only be yourself.
  • Ask yourself: “Am I doing the best I can? Am I really trying? Have I asked for help?”

Step 4 Recognize that their concern comes from a loving place.

  • Instead of getting mad or irritated, understand that they are your parents, and their first priority is you. They want you to succeed, and they want what is best for you. They have your best interests in mind, even if it is difficult to see that in their actions.

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In early 2020, around the onset of Covid-19 lockdowns, Jessica Mungekar noticed her seventh grade honor student, Layla, retreat. “I knew that she felt really uncomfortable and she wanted to fall into the background,” Mungekar says. “She didn’t want to be noticed and I didn’t quite understand it.”

Meanwhile, Layla was keeping the source of her pain secret from her mother: She was being bullied and was struggling with her identity as a biracial teen in a predominantly white town. Layla feared if she told her mom about the extent of the bullying, Jessica would have called the school, making the problem even worse.

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Things came to a head the summer before Layla’s first year of high school when she shared with her mom details of a traumatic event. Layla urged her mother not to make decisions on her behalf in the aftermath. Instead, Jessica went into what she calls “mama bear mode” and made demands of her daughter: Cut off contact with these friends, join these extracurricular activities, you are only allowed out of the house during these hours. Layla felt like her autonomy was being taken away.

Over the course of a few months, mother and daughter worked to repair their relationship and communication. Now, Jessica says she is sure to listen to Layla instead of immediately offering advice, validates her daughter’s feelings, and gives her freedom to express herself. For her part, Layla confides in her mother all the time, even about her dating life. Her friends often seek out Jessica for counsel, too. “She’s become a safe place where people go to get advice,” Layla, now 16, says. “She’s joyous and doesn’t pass judgment.”

Students are faced with a daily barrage of potential stressors: a demanding course load, tricky social dynamics, managing both their time and emotions. In a four-year study designed to estimate the prevalence of mental disorders in kindergarteners through 12th graders, findings showed one in six students exhibited enough symptoms to meet the criteria for one or more childhood mental disorders, such as anxiety disorders and attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. According to a 2019 Pew Research Center report, 61 percent of teens said they felt a lot of pressure to get good grades. About 22 percent of 12- to 18-year-old students reported being bullied during the school year in 2019, per a National Center for Education Statistics survey . None of these statistics takes into account the toll of the pandemic, which set students back academically and had negative effects on their mental health .

Once kids leave the house, parents and other adults in their lives have little influence on their students’ school days. Unable to witness or guide children through the difficulties in and out of the classroom, parents often get piecemeal or incomplete views of how their kids spent the last hours, especially if the child is young and can’t adequately verbalize their struggles or frustrations. Signs that a student may be experiencing hardship at school include increased irritability, difficulty sleeping or lack of sleep, and changes in appetite, says Jessica Kendorski , the chair of the school psychology department and professor at the Philadelphia College of Osteopathic Medicine. They may also say they feel sick in order to stay home, when in reality they may be stressed or anxious about school, Kendorski says.

Another indicator of a struggling child includes extreme people-pleasing, says Meredith Draughn , the school counselor at B. Everett Jordan Elementary School in Graham, NC, and the 2023 American School Counselor Association Counselor of the Year. High school students may also exhibit a “freeze” response, Draughn says. “It’s like well, that kid just doesn’t care, right? That kid’s super apathetic,” she says. “What we find when we dig into it more is they’re so overwhelmed by everything that’s happening that they just choose to do nothing because they don’t know how to address it.”

What, then, is the right way to support the students in your life? The tactics will vary based on the age of your child and the issues they’re facing. Regardless of your approach, experts say to always keep your kids in the loop of any decisions you’re making about their emotional and academic success.

Encourage growth mindset tactics for academic achievement

From homework to challenging classes, students experience a number of academic hurdles. Sometimes, they may fail a test or drop the ball on a project. While some students may criticize themselves (“I’m not smart enough”) or claim the material was too difficult, parents should promote a growth mindset : the ability to learn from setbacks, implement new processes, and improve. “You want to praise the effort and the strategies that they used,” Kendorski says. “If they fail something, you want to talk through ‘Why did you fail this? Let’s talk about what you can do to be successful next time.’”

A fixed mindset is one where people believe their skills are set in stone and they have no possibility of improving. When students in his classroom share fixed mindset sentiments like “I can’t do this,” elementary school teacher Josh Monroe is quick to amend the statement: “You can’t do this yet .” The power of yet helps students “understand that you don’t have to know it all right now — and it’s important that you don’t, that’s how you grow,” he says.

While it’s crucial to encourage a growth mindset with students who use negative self-talk, like “I’ll never learn this” or “I’m not good enough,” a fixed mindset can also backfire if you constantly tell a student “You’re so smart,” Kendorski says. “When things start to get really difficult, you might find kids that don’t want to take chances,” she says, “because they think that if I fail, I’m going to lose that ‘I’m so smart’ title.” Instead, she says, focus on accomplishments based on effort and strategies: “I’m really proud of you for organizing a study group with your friends.”

To help ensure your kids get their homework done and prepare for tests, Kendorski encourages a routine: dedicating a time and a place for schoolwork. If your student retains information more effectively if they study for a little bit each day instead of cramming, offer that as an option.

When the kid in your life asks for help with homework and you’re a little rusty on, say, algebra, don’t feel ashamed to admit you don’t know how to solve the problem, Draughn says. Monroe recommends the online educational tool Khan Academy , which features videos that guide both parents and students through all levels of educational concepts and lessons. For additional academic resources, reach out to your student’s teacher who will know about after-school tutoring sessions or extra guidance, Draughn says. “Going to teachers early and often, when help is needed, is the most crucial part of it,” she says, “because there are those programs, but they do fill up pretty quickly.”

Empower students to navigate difficult social situations with confidence

School can be a social minefield, with kids learning how to independently interact with peers and regulate their emotions. If your child shares that they’re being picked on or ostracized in school, Draughn suggests that you first validate their experience and never downplay their emotions. Ask them what level of support they want: Do they think it would be helpful to talk to a school counselor or a teacher? Or do they prefer you to reach out to the teacher directly? In Layla Mungekar’s experience, she would have opted for her mother to not interfere with her social life. “Letting them lead the way on that is important,” Draughn says. “They may say, I feel like I have the tools to handle this — and that’s great. Then you check in. But doing nothing and just not mentioning it again is not going to help anything.”

You might also start counseling your kid on self-advocacy and assertiveness at home, too, Draughn says, helping them identify moments where they should speak out against bad behavior and pointing out trustworthy adults to whom they can report issues, regardless of whether they are on the receiving end or have witnessed another student being bullied. “If someone is making you feel socially or physically unsafe, that’s the time to speak up,” says Tracee Perryman , the author of Elevating Futures: A Model For Empowering Black Elementary Student Success . Again, only reach out to the school yourself after talking it over with your kid.

However, your child may simply be shy and reserved, not the victim of bullying. Perryman says to help build confidence with the kids in your life by reminding them that what they have to say is important and they have valuable interests and insights worth sharing with others.

When it comes to social media, Jessica Mungekar discovered teens will “do what they’re going to do, whether you want them to or not,” she says. It’s better to listen if your child is involved with social media-related conflict, remind them they are not in trouble, and support them as you work to create a plan together. “I think it’s important in this day and age for kids to have social media because otherwise they get [alienated] by their peers,” Layla Mungekar says. “But it’s a lot safer when parents have those conversations, like yeah, this is going to happen and when it does happen, you should feel safe to come to me and not be blamed for that.”

Experts emphasize the transitory nature of school. While it’s crucial for students to apply themselves academically and make strides socially, remind them that one speed bump, fight with a friend, blunder, or bad grade will not drastically alter the trajectory of their lives. “It’s better that I make those mistakes now,” Layla says, “while I have someone there to help me.”

Promote balance to minimize stress

Just like adults, kids can get stressed due to the demands of school and extracurriculars, as well as conflicts with friends and family. If kids are sleeping very late on weekends or too tired to do activities they typically enjoy, like spending time with friends, they might need more balance in their schedules, Perryman says.

Ask your kid directly: “Are you playing T-ball three nights a week because you like it or you feel like you have to?” or “You had three extracurriculars last semester and it was really overwhelming for you. Do you want to pick two for this coming semester?” Draughn suggests. Remind your kid that just because they step away from a hobby now doesn’t mean they can’t come back to it in the future. Make sure students have one weeknight and one weekend day solely devoted to downtime, too, Draughn says. However, don’t discount the fact that sports and other activities can be rejuvenating for kids, even if they’re not resting.

Parents and supportive adults are quick to problem-solve for the kids in their lives, but Kendorski stresses the importance of asking, “Do you want me to listen? Or do you want me to help?” Your child might just want to vent about a tough baseball practice. When Layla wants validation and a hug from her mom, she asks her “to be a waterfall.” When she’s feeling less emotionally charged, then Layla and her mom can problem-solve.

For high-achieving students who may be stressed about grades and college applications, Kendorski suggests asking your kids what story they’re telling themselves about success. For example, they might worry that a bad test grade means they’ll never get into their dream college. Help them map more realistic outcomes by thinking about the absolute worst-case scenario and alternative paths. For example, the worst that could happen if they fail a single test is maybe they get a C for the quarter. But reinforce how if they study and complete all their homework, the likelihood of failing is minimized.

Remember not to make your stress their stress. Children are intuitive and can pick up on how the adults in their lives are feeling, Kendorski says. Instead of turning away from uncomfortable emotions, encourage open communication. If you’re disappointed in a mediocre grade, try saying, “I’m feeling a little bummed about the C on that test, but that’s my issue. I know you work hard and with some more practice, I know you’ll do better next time.”

Parents should always validate their child’s struggles and encourage caring for their mental health. Whether they’re seeking support from a trusted teacher or you think they’d benefit from speaking with a therapist — ask them how they’d feel about chatting with a professional before scheduling an appointment — remind them that “mental health is health,” Draughn says. That matters more than any test score.

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According to a recent study, parental involvement is strongly associated with high performance on a standardized test that measures 15-year-olds’ reading comprehension as well as math and science problem-solving. Do your parents support your learning? Did they read to you when you were little? Do you think their level of involvement now has anything to do with your test scores and grades?

In his Op-Ed column “How About Better Parents?” Thomas L. Friedman argues that involved parents, as well as excellent teachers, are needed to improve the scores of American students on international tests. He explains the new findings about the Program for International Student Assessment exam, or PISA:

To better understand why some students thrive taking the PISA tests and others do not, Andreas Schleicher, who oversees the exams for the O.E.C.D., was encouraged by the O.E.C.D. countries to look beyond the classrooms. So starting with four countries in 2006, and then adding 14 more in 2009, the PISA team went to the parents of 5,000 students and interviewed them “about how they raised their kids and then compared that with the test results” for each of those years, Schleicher explained to me. Two weeks ago, the PISA team published the three main findings of its study: “Fifteen-year-old students whose parents often read books with them during their first year of primary school show markedly higher scores in PISA 2009 than students whose parents read with them infrequently or not at all. The performance advantage among students whose parents read to them in their early school years is evident regardless of the family’s socioeconomic background. Parents’ engagement with their 15-year-olds is strongly associated with better performance in PISA.” Schleicher explained to me that “just asking your child how was their school day and showing genuine interest in the learning that they are doing can have the same impact as hours of private tutoring. It is something every parent can do, no matter what their education level or social background.”

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My parents do take a role in my education. When I was in first grade, my parents read a book to me everyday.They still do take an interest in my schooling. In fact, my dad taught me the basic concepts of grammar and algebra. These two things brought me a successful quarter in school. My parents check my grade on PowerSchool, and they ask about what’s going wrong if I have a bad grade in school. I think that if my parents weren’t doing these things, I wouldn’t be able to have straight A’s.

My parents have helped me with my homework and helped me learn to talk and read when i was younger. Now that I’m older I do all of my homework at school.

I think that my parents are interested in my learning and support it completely. I mean, if they didn’t support my learning, would I be in school as of right now? My parents ask me everyday what happened in school, and mainly I tell them everything’s going fine, but then I get more in depth of what my day consisted of. What homework I got and what interesting things happened.

My parents are very supportive in my education. They buy me books to read and buy me the things I need for school.My parents are very proud of me when I get good grades. They love when I try my hardest.

I don’t remember them reading to us. They aren’t really involved in my school stuff, nor do i get rewards. I don’t think it’ll help

i think my father and mother support me. my mother and i think my father used to read to me when i was young. my father hasnt help me be who i am right now and how envolved i am in school

I think that my parents role in my education is good. When I was young my mother read to me. My parents do take an interest in my schooling. They do not reward me for good grades. I think that if my parents were more involved in my learning I might get better grades, but I don’t care.

My mother did read to me as a child. My parents also take a huge interest in my schooling and my grades. They usually keep up with my mid quarter and quarter grades.

When i was young my parents read to me. When i was young they also got rewards for my grades, but now they just kind of expect the good grades from me. Now that I am older they say good job, but they don’t really talk to me about school anymore, and I dont want to talk about it either. I usually change the subject when they ask me.

My parents really push me into a higher learning. They provide me with materials needed to succeed and they help me if I am struggling. Before I am allowed to do anything recreational, they ask that I do my homework. They aren’t too strict because they feel that it is important for me to take care of responsibilities, and that I should take care of myself when it comes to assignments.

Yeah, my parents play a huge role in my studies and yeas they read to me when I was young and also help me study for tests and ask if i have hw. My parents help me with all my studies and also help my brother.

My parents take my eduation very serious. They always tell me that I owe them one thing, and that’s a High School Diploma. They never really read to me when I was child. But they always told me that if i read it would help me a lot. in the furtrue. My parents always tell me that ” Without a High school degree, You won’t make it far.” . And I know it’s true. When it comes to education my parents support me 100%

I believe that my parents do take part in my education and that their interest has made a difference in my education and success. They used to read to me when I was little and have always supported and encouraged me to get good grades. I also believe that being bilingual has helped me think in new ways which are beneficial to my education. All in all, my parents are always concerned and interested in my education.

No my parents didn’t read to me. Yes they care about my schooling. They do when they get my report card, if it is good they usually give me money or something. Yes i think i would do better but my parents are doing all they can to help me in school.

My parent(s) do support my learning, my mom especially . She makes sure that I get the education that I will need in the future. It important for me to get a good education so incan go to the college that I want to go to . She also makes sure that I do my best on everything and that i don’t slack off while doing homework or studying. In addition, she gets the right learning tools for me , such as a dictionary, for all subjects. With this I can understand terms and common subject expressions. All in all, , my parents definitely support my learning.

My mom never pushed me to do my best, and built up my confidence in school. I’ve only recently started to pick up my grades after a long-lasting decline in GPA. I finally gave myself the self-motivation needed.

My parents care about my grade because they are always asking me if I have my homework done and they often check my bag for the homework and make sure it is done.

My parents role in my education is to buy me what I need and sometimes give me a ride. They taught me to read on my own when I was 4 or so. My mother is interested to see how I’m doing, when I have a test she asks how I did and she occasionally asks how my grades are. She makes me do my homework when I have it. I don’t think their level of interest has anything to do with how well I’m doing. I do most things on my own and I don’t really care if she’s happy with me so it doesn’t affect me much.

My Mom has always showed a great intreats in my education, partially because she was my teacher. Since i am now in public school my mom always asks me when i come home how my day was and what i did in my classes. My Mom did use to read to me when i was younger( she was my teacher). My mom does show a great interest in my school work, even now. She always requests to see what i have written for say an English paper. My mom does constantly ask me about my homework, thats actually the number one thing she asks me about everyday. I do not know how much more my Mom could become involved with my education, unless i had become home schooled again, but i would say that my mom being so involved with my education has helped me succeed.

My parents play a huge role in my education and always have. They’re always pushing me to strive for a higher grade. My mom is always checking my grades to make sure I stay on top of them. I appreciate that they do care about my grades in school, otherwise I may not have the grades that I do now.

When I was very little my mom and dad would read to me and my sisters every night. My mom also used to be very involved in the school doing the read with me program and going to my IEP meetings. Now she does that for my brother and is less involved in school things and doesn’t really ask how school was or what we learned today or anything. My mom is too busy with the rest of the kids to ask if we are doing our homework. She told me that she asked when we were little and that should count for something but, now we are on our own. I’ve never gotten rewarded for doing well in school. I do think that if it seemed like my mom was interested in what I was doing I would try harder.

My parents do support my learning. My parents always make sure I do good. Whenever I have a test, they make sure I study so I get a good grade. I am happy they care about my grades because it makes me want to do well. My parents also make sure I do my homework. Therefore, my parents do support my learning and I appreciate that.

My parents play a big part in my education. Ever since I was little, My parents encouraged me to do well in school and succeed in everything I do. They know that in order to do well in the rest of my life, I need to do well in school. Also I am encouraged to excel with my education because my mom is a teacher so she knows what my teachers expect of me. I think this is an advantage. When i’m doing projects, I find out her opinion on my work so that I can get feedback. Then after I find out her opinion on my work, I make changes so that I do well when I hand it in.

My mom and dad definitely support my learning. My parents always help me study and they make sure I try my best on everything. She likes me to go to as many extra helps as I can, so I get very good grades. My parents like to know also when I have upcoming events so they can ask me if I studied. They are constantly asking me if I did my homework. Some people probably think that’s annoying, but sometimes my parents remind me to do things that I forgot to do. My parent’s definitely support my education and want me to learn as much as I can.

My parents take a big role in my life when it comes to school. They always read to me when I was little before bed and when I first started school they always wanted to know how I did. Although they don’t even have to ask me anymore, it’s a routine and I tell them all the time. When my report cards come in they always are impressed and they are speechless as they would say. I think if they didn’t push me to become a good student from when I was little then I think I would have been doing really bad in school and be a disgrace to the family as I would feel. My dad still pushes me really hard because both my parents and I want me to get into a good college and be successful like my dad.

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“To me, my mother defines resilience. She had such strong faith and was a very giving and positive person.”

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When I was a young girl and something difficult happened, I would look to my mother for comfort and guidance. She was always there for me, helping me work through the issue or helping me gain perspective. No matter what, my mom had a positive outlook and she taught me to value the wonderful moments in life—and how to persevere in difficult times.

At the time, I had no knowledge of the difficulties, hardships, and losses she had endured. Growing up during the Great Depression, my mom lost two sisters in their childhood, suffered from tuberculosis, and supported her youngest sister through a car accident that left her a paraplegic at age nineteen.

To me, my mother defines resilience. She had such strong faith and was a very giving and positive person. Our house was like a central hub for family and friends; no one ever left hungry or without feeling a bit better than they did when they arrived.

As a child, one thing my mother would often say to me was, “this too shall pass.” At first, I found this annoying. What I was dealing with seemed like the most important and difficult thing ever! How would it ever be okay again? How would it get better? As I matured, I realized she was right. Life moves on and we all have a choice to move forward or back. She always chose moving forward.

My biggest personal challenge was losing my parents. My dad passed away two short years after my mother. They were so important to me and influential in all aspects of my life—from my belief that I could do anything I wanted professionally, to how to raise our children. They were my go-to people: the people I wanted to talk to no matter what had happened, what mistakes I made, or what joy I was feeling. Their absence was painful and more challenging than I had ever imagined. The dynamic at our holiday dinners was markedly different. For years, I hated Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. They weren’t a phone call away when I needed advice or wanted to share something special. It was a real sense of loss—something you can’t understand until you are living it. 

Thinking about my mom’s advice that “this too shall pass” gave me the strength to carry on and live life day-by-day, moment-by-moment. Like so many others who have faced the loss of family and friends, time does help mend our heavy hearts, but it is resilience that allows us to continue to move forward.

“This too shall pass,” doesn’t mean that the problem, feelings or situation will magically disappear. Rather, it can lead to a very reflective thought process that helps you find inner strength to address the challenge at hand or simply continue to put one foot in front of the other.

So as you face obstacles and challenges, as we all do, I hope my mother’s advice will help you choose to move forward, find solutions and make the best of what life has to offer.

Under Mary’s leadership, GM is focused on strengthening its core business while working to lead the transformation of personal mobility through advanced technologies such as connectivity, electrification, autonomous driving and car sharing. Barra has established a strategic direction based on putting the customer at the center of everything the company does, all around the world. She was elected Chairman of the GM Board of Directors on January 4, 2016, and has served as CEO of GM since January 15, 2014. Stay in touch with Mary via Facebook , LinkedIn and Twitter .

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Everyone struggles with homework sometimes, but if getting your homework done has become a chronic issue for you, then you may need a little extra help. That’s why we’ve written this article all about how to do homework. Once you’re finished reading it, you’ll know how to do homework (and have tons of new ways to motivate yourself to do homework)!

We’ve broken this article down into a few major sections. You’ll find:

  • A diagnostic test to help you figure out why you’re struggling with homework
  • A discussion of the four major homework problems students face, along with expert tips for addressing them
  • A bonus section with tips for how to do homework fast

By the end of this article, you’ll be prepared to tackle whatever homework assignments your teachers throw at you .

So let’s get started!


How to Do Homework: Figure Out Your Struggles 

Sometimes it feels like everything is standing between you and getting your homework done. But the truth is, most people only have one or two major roadblocks that are keeping them from getting their homework done well and on time. 

The best way to figure out how to get motivated to do homework starts with pinpointing the issues that are affecting your ability to get your assignments done. That’s why we’ve developed a short quiz to help you identify the areas where you’re struggling. 

Take the quiz below and record your answers on your phone or on a scrap piece of paper. Keep in mind there are no wrong answers! 

1. You’ve just been assigned an essay in your English class that’s due at the end of the week. What’s the first thing you do?

A. Keep it in mind, even though you won’t start it until the day before it’s due  B. Open up your planner. You’ve got to figure out when you’ll write your paper since you have band practice, a speech tournament, and your little sister’s dance recital this week, too.  C. Groan out loud. Another essay? You could barely get yourself to write the last one!  D. Start thinking about your essay topic, which makes you think about your art project that’s due the same day, which reminds you that your favorite artist might have just posted to you better check your feed right now. 

2. Your mom asked you to pick up your room before she gets home from work. You’ve just gotten home from school. You decide you’ll tackle your chores: 

A. Five minutes before your mom walks through the front door. As long as it gets done, who cares when you start?  B. As soon as you get home from your shift at the local grocery store.  C. After you give yourself a 15-minute pep talk about how you need to get to work.  D. You won’t get it done. Between texts from your friends, trying to watch your favorite Netflix show, and playing with your dog, you just lost track of time! 

3. You’ve signed up to wash dogs at the Humane Society to help earn money for your senior class trip. You: 

A. Show up ten minutes late. You put off leaving your house until the last minute, then got stuck in unexpected traffic on the way to the shelter.  B. Have to call and cancel at the last minute. You forgot you’d already agreed to babysit your cousin and bake cupcakes for tomorrow’s bake sale.  C. Actually arrive fifteen minutes early with extra brushes and bandanas you picked up at the store. You’re passionate about animals, so you’re excited to help out! D. Show up on time, but only get three dogs washed. You couldn’t help it: you just kept getting distracted by how cute they were!

4. You have an hour of downtime, so you decide you’re going to watch an episode of The Great British Baking Show. You: 

A. Scroll through your social media feeds for twenty minutes before hitting play, which means you’re not able to finish the whole episode. Ugh! You really wanted to see who was sent home!  B. Watch fifteen minutes until you remember you’re supposed to pick up your sister from band practice before heading to your part-time job. No GBBO for you!  C. You finish one episode, then decide to watch another even though you’ve got SAT studying to do. It’s just more fun to watch people make scones.  D. Start the episode, but only catch bits and pieces of it because you’re reading Twitter, cleaning out your backpack, and eating a snack at the same time.

5. Your teacher asks you to stay after class because you’ve missed turning in two homework assignments in a row. When she asks you what’s wrong, you say: 

A. You planned to do your assignments during lunch, but you ran out of time. You decided it would be better to turn in nothing at all than submit unfinished work.  B. You really wanted to get the assignments done, but between your extracurriculars, family commitments, and your part-time job, your homework fell through the cracks.  C. You have a hard time psyching yourself to tackle the assignments. You just can’t seem to find the motivation to work on them once you get home.  D. You tried to do them, but you had a hard time focusing. By the time you realized you hadn’t gotten anything done, it was already time to turn them in. 

Like we said earlier, there are no right or wrong answers to this quiz (though your results will be better if you answered as honestly as possible). Here’s how your answers break down: 

  • If your answers were mostly As, then your biggest struggle with doing homework is procrastination. 
  • If your answers were mostly Bs, then your biggest struggle with doing homework is time management. 
  • If your answers were mostly Cs, then your biggest struggle with doing homework is motivation. 
  • If your answers were mostly Ds, then your biggest struggle with doing homework is getting distracted. 

Now that you’ve identified why you’re having a hard time getting your homework done, we can help you figure out how to fix it! Scroll down to find your core problem area to learn more about how you can start to address it. 

And one more thing: you’re really struggling with homework, it’s a good idea to read through every section below. You may find some additional tips that will help make homework less intimidating. 


How to Do Homework When You’re a Procrastinator  

Merriam Webster defines “procrastinate” as “to put off intentionally and habitually.” In other words, procrastination is when you choose to do something at the last minute on a regular basis. If you’ve ever found yourself pulling an all-nighter, trying to finish an assignment between periods, or sprinting to turn in a paper minutes before a deadline, you’ve experienced the effects of procrastination. 

If you’re a chronic procrastinator, you’re in good company. In fact, one study found that 70% to 95% of undergraduate students procrastinate when it comes to doing their homework. Unfortunately, procrastination can negatively impact your grades. Researchers have found that procrastination can lower your grade on an assignment by as much as five points ...which might not sound serious until you realize that can mean the difference between a B- and a C+. 

Procrastination can also negatively affect your health by increasing your stress levels , which can lead to other health conditions like insomnia, a weakened immune system, and even heart conditions. Getting a handle on procrastination can not only improve your grades, it can make you feel better, too! 

The big thing to understand about procrastination is that it’s not the result of laziness. Laziness is defined as being “disinclined to activity or exertion.” In other words, being lazy is all about doing nothing. But a s this Psychology Today article explains , procrastinators don’t put things off because they don’t want to work. Instead, procrastinators tend to postpone tasks they don’t want to do in favor of tasks that they perceive as either more important or more fun. Put another way, procrastinators want to do long as it’s not their homework! 

3 Tips f or Conquering Procrastination 

Because putting off doing homework is a common problem, there are lots of good tactics for addressing procrastination. Keep reading for our three expert tips that will get your homework habits back on track in no time. 

#1: Create a Reward System

Like we mentioned earlier, procrastination happens when you prioritize other activities over getting your homework done. Many times, this happens because homework...well, just isn’t enjoyable. But you can add some fun back into the process by rewarding yourself for getting your work done. 

Here’s what we mean: let’s say you decide that every time you get your homework done before the day it’s due, you’ll give yourself a point. For every five points you earn, you’ll treat yourself to your favorite dessert: a chocolate cupcake! Now you have an extra (delicious!) incentive to motivate you to leave procrastination in the dust. 

If you’re not into cupcakes, don’t worry. Your reward can be anything that motivates you . Maybe it’s hanging out with your best friend or an extra ten minutes of video game time. As long as you’re choosing something that makes homework worth doing, you’ll be successful. 

#2: Have a Homework Accountability Partner 

If you’re having trouble getting yourself to start your homework ahead of time, it may be a good idea to call in reinforcements . Find a friend or classmate you can trust and explain to them that you’re trying to change your homework habits. Ask them if they’d be willing to text you to make sure you’re doing your homework and check in with you once a week to see if you’re meeting your anti-procrastination goals. 

Sharing your goals can make them feel more real, and an accountability partner can help hold you responsible for your decisions. For example, let’s say you’re tempted to put off your science lab write-up until the morning before it’s due. But you know that your accountability partner is going to text you about it tomorrow...and you don’t want to fess up that you haven’t started your assignment. A homework accountability partner can give you the extra support and incentive you need to keep your homework habits on track. 

#3: Create Your Own Due Dates 

If you’re a life-long procrastinator, you might find that changing the habit is harder than you expected. In that case, you might try using procrastination to your advantage! If you just can’t seem to stop doing your work at the last minute, try setting your own due dates for assignments that range from a day to a week before the assignment is actually due. 

Here’s what we mean. Let’s say you have a math worksheet that’s been assigned on Tuesday and is due on Friday. In your planner, you can write down the due date as Thursday instead. You may still put off your homework assignment until the last minute...but in this case, the “last minute” is a day before the assignment’s real due date . This little hack can trick your procrastination-addicted brain into planning ahead! 


If you feel like Kevin Hart in this meme, then our tips for doing homework when you're busy are for you. 

How to Do Homework When You’re too Busy

If you’re aiming to go to a top-tier college , you’re going to have a full plate. Because college admissions is getting more competitive, it’s important that you’re maintaining your grades , studying hard for your standardized tests , and participating in extracurriculars so your application stands out. A packed schedule can get even more hectic once you add family obligations or a part-time job to the mix. 

If you feel like you’re being pulled in a million directions at once, you’re not alone. Recent research has found that stress—and more severe stress-related conditions like anxiety and depression— are a major problem for high school students . In fact, one study from the American Psychological Association found that during the school year, students’ stress levels are higher than those of the adults around them. 

For students, homework is a major contributor to their overall stress levels . Many high schoolers have multiple hours of homework every night , and figuring out how to fit it into an already-packed schedule can seem impossible. 

3 Tips for Fitting Homework Into Your Busy Schedule

While it might feel like you have literally no time left in your schedule, there are still ways to make sure you’re able to get your homework done and meet your other commitments. Here are our expert homework tips for even the busiest of students. 

#1: Make a Prioritized To-Do List 

You probably already have a to-do list to keep yourself on track. The next step is to prioritize the items on your to-do list so you can see what items need your attention right away. 

Here’s how it works: at the beginning of each day, sit down and make a list of all the items you need to get done before you go to bed. This includes your homework, but it should also take into account any practices, chores, events, or job shifts you may have. Once you get everything listed out, it’s time to prioritize them using the labels A, B, and C. Here’s what those labels mean:

  • A Tasks : tasks that have to get done—like showing up at work or turning in an assignment—get an A. 
  • B Tasks : these are tasks that you would like to get done by the end of the day but aren’t as time sensitive. For example, studying for a test you have next week could be a B-level task. It’s still important, but it doesn’t have to be done right away.
  • C Tasks: these are tasks that aren’t very important and/or have no real consequences if you don’t get them done immediately. For instance, if you’re hoping to clean out your closet but it’s not an assigned chore from your parents, you could label that to-do item with a C.

Prioritizing your to-do list helps you visualize which items need your immediate attention, and which items you can leave for later. A prioritized to-do list ensures that you’re spending your time efficiently and effectively, which helps you make room in your schedule for homework. So even though you might really want to start making decorations for Homecoming (a B task), you’ll know that finishing your reading log (an A task) is more important. 

#2: Use a Planner With Time Labels

Your planner is probably packed with notes, events, and assignments already. (And if you’re not using a planner, it’s time to start!) But planners can do more for you than just remind you when an assignment is due. If you’re using a planner with time labels, it can help you visualize how you need to spend your day.

A planner with time labels breaks your day down into chunks, and you assign tasks to each chunk of time. For example, you can make a note of your class schedule with assignments, block out time to study, and make sure you know when you need to be at practice. Once you know which tasks take priority, you can add them to any empty spaces in your day. 

Planning out how you spend your time not only helps you use it wisely, it can help you feel less overwhelmed, too . We’re big fans of planners that include a task list ( like this one ) or have room for notes ( like this one ). 

#3: Set Reminders on Your Phone 

If you need a little extra nudge to make sure you’re getting your homework done on time, it’s a good idea to set some reminders on your phone. You don’t need a fancy app, either. You can use your alarm app to have it go off at specific times throughout the day to remind you to do your homework. This works especially well if you have a set homework time scheduled. So if you’ve decided you’re doing homework at 6:00 pm, you can set an alarm to remind you to bust out your books and get to work. 

If you use your phone as your planner, you may have the option to add alerts, emails, or notifications to scheduled events . Many calendar apps, including the one that comes with your phone, have built-in reminders that you can customize to meet your needs. So if you block off time to do your homework from 4:30 to 6:00 pm, you can set a reminder that will pop up on your phone when it’s time to get started. 


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How to Do Homework When You’re Unmotivated 

At first glance, it may seem like procrastination and being unmotivated are the same thing. After all, both of these issues usually result in you putting off your homework until the very last minute. 

But there’s one key difference: many procrastinators are working, they’re just prioritizing work differently. They know they’re going to start their homework...they’re just going to do it later. 

Conversely, people who are unmotivated to do homework just can’t find the willpower to tackle their assignments. Procrastinators know they’ll at least attempt the homework at the last minute, whereas people who are unmotivated struggle with convincing themselves to do it at a ll. For procrastinators, the stress comes from the inevitable time crunch. For unmotivated people, the stress comes from trying to convince themselves to do something they don’t want to do in the first place. 

Here are some common reasons students are unmotivated in doing homework : 

  • Assignments are too easy, too hard, or seemingly pointless 
  • Students aren’t interested in (or passionate about) the subject matter
  • Students are intimidated by the work and/or feels like they don’t understand the assignment 
  • Homework isn’t fun, and students would rather spend their time on things that they enjoy 

To sum it up: people who lack motivation to do their homework are more likely to not do it at all, or to spend more time worrying about doing their homework than...well, actually doing it.

3 Tips for How to Get Motivated to Do Homework

The key to getting homework done when you’re unmotivated is to figure out what does motivate you, then apply those things to homework. It sounds tricky...but it’s pretty simple once you get the hang of it! Here are our three expert tips for motivating yourself to do your homework. 

#1: Use Incremental Incentives

When you’re not motivated, it’s important to give yourself small rewards to stay focused on finishing the task at hand. The trick is to keep the incentives small and to reward yourself often. For example, maybe you’re reading a good book in your free time. For every ten minutes you spend on your homework, you get to read five pages of your book. Like we mentioned earlier, make sure you’re choosing a reward that works for you! 

So why does this technique work? Using small rewards more often allows you to experience small wins for getting your work done. Every time you make it to one of your tiny reward points, you get to celebrate your success, which gives your brain a boost of dopamine . Dopamine helps you stay motivated and also creates a feeling of satisfaction when you complete your homework !  

#2: Form a Homework Group 

If you’re having trouble motivating yourself, it’s okay to turn to others for support. Creating a homework group can help with this. Bring together a group of your friends or classmates, and pick one time a week where you meet and work on homework together. You don’t have to be in the same class, or even taking the same subjects— the goal is to encourage one another to start (and finish!) your assignments. 

Another added benefit of a homework group is that you can help one another if you’re struggling to understand the material covered in your classes. This is especially helpful if your lack of motivation comes from being intimidated by your assignments. Asking your friends for help may feel less scary than talking to your teacher...and once you get a handle on the material, your homework may become less frightening, too. 

#3: Change Up Your Environment 

If you find that you’re totally unmotivated, it may help if you find a new place to do your homework. For example, if you’ve been struggling to get your homework done at home, try spending an extra hour in the library after school instead. The change of scenery can limit your distractions and give you the energy you need to get your work done. 

If you’re stuck doing homework at home, you can still use this tip. For instance, maybe you’ve always done your homework sitting on your bed. Try relocating somewhere else, like your kitchen table, for a few weeks. You may find that setting up a new “homework spot” in your house gives you a motivational lift and helps you get your work done. 


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How to Do Homework When You’re Easily Distracted

We live in an always-on world, and there are tons of things clamoring for our attention. From friends and family to pop culture and social media, it seems like there’s always something (or someone!) distracting us from the things we need to do.

The 24/7 world we live in has affected our ability to focus on tasks for prolonged periods of time. Research has shown that over the past decade, an average person’s attention span has gone from 12 seconds to eight seconds . And when we do lose focus, i t takes people a long time to get back on task . One study found that it can take as long as 23 minutes to get back to work once we’ve been distracte d. No wonder it can take hours to get your homework done! 

3 Tips to Improve Your Focus

If you have a hard time focusing when you’re doing your homework, it’s a good idea to try and eliminate as many distractions as possible. Here are three expert tips for blocking out the noise so you can focus on getting your homework done. 

#1: Create a Distraction-Free Environment

Pick a place where you’ll do your homework every day, and make it as distraction-free as possible. Try to find a location where there won’t be tons of noise, and limit your access to screens while you’re doing your homework. Put together a focus-oriented playlist (or choose one on your favorite streaming service), and put your headphones on while you work. 

You may find that other people, like your friends and family, are your biggest distraction. If that’s the case, try setting up some homework boundaries. Let them know when you’ll be working on homework every day, and ask them if they’ll help you keep a quiet environment. They’ll be happy to lend a hand! 

#2: Limit Your Access to Technology 

We know, we know...this tip isn’t fun, but it does work. For homework that doesn’t require a computer, like handouts or worksheets, it’s best to put all your technology away . Turn off your television, put your phone and laptop in your backpack, and silence notifications on any wearable tech you may be sporting. If you listen to music while you work, that’s fine...but make sure you have a playlist set up so you’re not shuffling through songs once you get started on your homework. 

If your homework requires your laptop or tablet, it can be harder to limit your access to distractions. But it’s not impossible! T here are apps you can download that will block certain websites while you’re working so that you’re not tempted to scroll through Twitter or check your Facebook feed. Silence notifications and text messages on your computer, and don’t open your email account unless you absolutely have to. And if you don’t need access to the internet to complete your assignments, turn off your WiFi. Cutting out the online chatter is a great way to make sure you’re getting your homework done. 

#3: Set a Timer (the Pomodoro Technique)

Have you ever heard of the Pomodoro technique ? It’s a productivity hack that uses a timer to help you focus!

Here’s how it works: first, set a timer for 25 minutes. This is going to be your work time. During this 25 minutes, all you can do is work on whatever homework assignment you have in front of you. No email, no text messaging, no phone calls—just homework. When that timer goes off, you get to take a 5 minute break. Every time you go through one of these cycles, it’s called a “pomodoro.” For every four pomodoros you complete, you can take a longer break of 15 to 30 minutes.

The pomodoro technique works through a combination of boundary setting and rewards. First, it gives you a finite amount of time to focus, so you know that you only have to work really hard for 25 minutes. Once you’ve done that, you’re rewarded with a short break where you can do whatever you want. Additionally, tracking how many pomodoros you complete can help you see how long you’re really working on your homework. (Once you start using our focus tips, you may find it doesn’t take as long as you thought!)


Two Bonus Tips for How to Do Homework Fast

Even if you’re doing everything right, there will be times when you just need to get your homework done as fast as possible. (Why do teachers always have projects due in the same week? The world may never know.)

The problem with speeding through homework is that it’s easy to make mistakes. While turning in an assignment is always better than not submitting anything at all, you want to make sure that you’re not compromising quality for speed. Simply put, the goal is to get your homework done quickly and still make a good grade on the assignment! 

Here are our two bonus tips for getting a decent grade on your homework assignments , even when you’re in a time crunch. 

#1: Do the Easy Parts First 

This is especially true if you’re working on a handout with multiple questions. Before you start working on the assignment, read through all the questions and problems. As you do, make a mark beside the questions you think are “easy” to answer . 

Once you’ve finished going through the whole assignment, you can answer these questions first. Getting the easy questions out of the way as quickly as possible lets you spend more time on the trickier portions of your homework, which will maximize your assignment grade. 

(Quick note: this is also a good strategy to use on timed assignments and tests, like the SAT and the ACT !) 

#2: Pay Attention in Class 

Homework gets a lot easier when you’re actively learning the material. Teachers aren’t giving you homework because they’re mean or trying to ruin your weekend... it’s because they want you to really understand the course material. Homework is designed to reinforce what you’re already learning in class so you’ll be ready to tackle harder concepts later.

When you pay attention in class, ask questions, and take good notes, you’re absorbing the information you’ll need to succeed on your homework assignments. (You’re stuck in class anyway, so you might as well make the most of it!) Not only will paying attention in class make your homework less confusing, it will also help it go much faster, too.


What’s Next?

If you’re looking to improve your productivity beyond homework, a good place to begin is with time management. After all, we only have so much time in a it’s important to get the most out of it! To get you started, check out this list of the 12 best time management techniques that you can start using today.

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  • Clean up after yourself to make your mom smile. If you've left a mess on your desk, on your bed, or in your room, tidy up.
  • Help with household chores that your mom normally handles. For instance, set the table or take out the trash.
  • Ask your mom what you can do to help her if you're not sure. She'll probably really appreciate your thoughtfulness!

Tidy up clutter in your room.

Help your mom by cleaning up any objects on the floor.

  • If you have a playroom or a family room that’s looking cluttered, do the same thing there as well.
  • Are there any dishes or cups in your room? Help your mom out by taking them to the kitchen to be washed.

Organize your school work.

Choose a specific area for your papers and backpack.

  • Having a homework spot doesn't just make your room look cleaner, it makes it easier to find what you need to get ready for school in the morning.

Make your bed.

Keep your room looking great by making your bed look nice.

  • If you know your mom is doing laundry later, help her out by taking the sheets off your bed and putting them in the laundry pile. Try to wash your sheets at least once a week to keep them looking and smelling fresh.

Set the table for dinner.

Grab plates, silverware, and napkins before you sit down to eat.

  • You can also pour cups of water for everyone at the table.

Feed and walk the pets.

Help care for your animals so your mom doesn’t have to.

  • You could also play fetch or play with toys inside the house.

Water the plants.

Grab a watering can and give your thirsty plants a drink.

  • Outdoor plants usually only need to be watered during the spring and summer. If it’s raining, your plants are being watered for you!
  • Some plants only need a little bit of water. If you aren’t sure whether or not yours need some, ask your mom.

Take out the trash.

When the trash can is full, bring the bag outside.

  • If you’re old enough to push the large trash bins out to the street, ask your mom when trash day is. Then, the night before, bring the bins out to the street for the garbage trucks to pick up in the morning.

Do a load of laundry.

Wash, dry, and fold the clothes to help your mom out.

  • Some clothes are delicate and need to be washed on a special cycle. Ask your mom beforehand if there’s anything you should set aside before putting in the laundry.
  • When the clothes are dry, fold them and sort them into piles based on where they go.

Vacuum or sweep the floors.

Clean the floors in your home to leave them looking spotless.

  • If your floors are really dirty, you could even mop them for your mom. Ask her where the mop and bucket are, then fill up the bucket with water and whatever cleaning solution your mom usually uses.

Make your own breakfast or lunch.

Prepare an easy meal for yourself that you can eat on your own.

  • Packing your lunch the night before makes the mornings of school easier.
  • If you have siblings, you can trade off whose turn it is to pack lunch or make breakfast for everybody.

Help make dinner.

Ask your parents what you can do to help make a meal.

Wash the dishes.

Clean up after a big meal to help your mom in the kitchen.

  • If you aren’t old enough to do the dishes yet, focus on taking your dinner plate to the kitchen and scraping any food into the garbage or compost.

Dust around the house.

Wipe off surfaces...

  • Be extra careful if you choose to dust electronics, like the TV or your computer. Always use a clean microfiber towel, and go gently over the screen so you don’t damage it.

Do some yard work.

Mow the grass or weed the garden outside on a nice day.

Ask your mom what to do if you’re not sure.

Your mom probably has plenty of chores in mind for you to do.

  • Your mom will probably really appreciate you wanting to help. Even if she doesn’t have a chore for you right that second, she’ll love knowing that you’re willing to clean up around the house and lighten her load a bit.

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If you want to help out your busy mother around the house, try taking over a task she usually does, like preparing lunch for your siblings. Another option could be to put your dishes in the dishwasher after eating or wash them up in the sink. If you'd rather help look after your pets, make sure they have food and water, and are walked regularly. Then, encourage your siblings to follow your example by planning a "Mom's day off" when all of you will take over the chores for a day to give your mom a break. To find out how you can keep your own room clean and how to encourage others to help out around the house, read on! Did this summary help you? Yes No

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I Need Help With My Cruel Mother

My mother is my worst enemy..

Posted September 21, 2020 | Reviewed by Gary Drevitch

Dear Dr. Greenberg,

For a while now, my relationship with my mother has been strained. When I was younger, she would tell me to do things and basically smother me all of the time. While it wasn’t bad then, it is now as I have gotten older and matured (I am 16). I’ve been called very mature for my age, yet my mom doesn’t see that.

She likes to over-criticize. A very common example is the "issue" of my acne. My acne doesn’t really bother me too much since I’m a teen and it’s not like really bad that I have it, but my mother treats it like the end of the world. Even though I told her most teens have acne for years, she still freaks out if she deems “my face isn’t getting any better."

This type of thing has been happening for a couple of years and it did take me a while to finally ponder the idea that I am beautiful (though there are some times where I don’t think I am). It doesn’t help when my mom goes on rants about how bad my face is.

I once asked her why she cared so much about it, [saying] that it is my face and I am not worried about it, so she shouldn’t be. Apparently that was the wrong thing to say since she completely freaked out on me. A little bit into that "conversation," she stormed out of my room and (I kid you not) started to stomp her feet. The childishness of it would have been funny if it didn’t hurt me so much.

Another thing is that my mom has a very different work style than mine. She is a person who likes to do as much as she can in a day and is always busy. I am more of a procrastinator , and while I always get straight As and turn things in on time, I often leave things to the last minute. Recently, I’ve been trying to stop procrastinating, but it’s getting harder as the homework and tests get harder.

The reason I mention this is because my mom always wants me to work on homework. If she had to choose between me working on homework that is not due for a while or spending time with my family, she would choose the former. A lot of arguments stem because of this and I try my best to keep calm and just ignore her words, but it does get really, really hard.

My mom also makes a lot of borderline-cruel comments. I’ve actually made a list on my phone of every bad comment or thing she did. I deleted it in an effort to forgive her for it and in hopes to start over. I eventually started a new list after her harsh comments continued.

I’ve started to learn to tune my mom out, but I really just don’t want to. I hear and see my friends have good and trusting relationships with their moms and I can’t help but feel jealous . I want to be able to tell my mom my secrets, but I just don’t really trust her.

I have two older sisters, but they are already out of college and I don’t get to talk to them much. My dad, out of everyone in my family, is the one I am closest to and have the most respect for. He normally tries to create a neutral agreement with me and my mom whenever we disagree. But at the same time, it is frustrating because I know my mom only sees me as a rebellious, immature teenager who is unable to care for herself.

I haven’t seen a doctor or anyone, but I think I do have panic attacks or anxiety attacks from time to time. My mental health isn’t the best and all of this conflict with my mother has only worsened it. I want to see a doctor or somebody, but for some reason, I just don’t feel like I can. I think it’s more because of the fact that I don’t want my mom to know.

My mental health has been getting better over the past few months, but every day, or every other day, I am reminded of my mom and the feeling that she isn’t proud of me and who I am. As I said, I try to ignore it, but I want a good relationship with my mom. I just don’t know how to get it. I tried to open up to her about why I react so strongly when she criticizes me about my acne, and for a moment I thought I was getting through to her, but she ended up storming out of my room.

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I told my friends about this and they helped me a lot, but I just don’t know where to go from here. A part of me wants to stand up for myself and another part just wants me to submit to my mom so I can spare our relationship.

I’ll be grateful for any advice you can give.

A Distraught Daughter

Dear Daughter,

I am really happy that you reached out to me. You have a very real issue going on with your mother. I will do my best to help you with ways to deal most effectively. I can tell from your letter that you are sensitive and thoughtful, which are qualities that will serve you well, not only at this point in your life but also throughout what I hope will be a long and fulfilling life.

You describe your mother as critical and I must validate your choice of words. I also understand how your mother's behavior might make you not only angry at her but might also make you self-conscious and frustrated. All of these feelings must certainly be affecting your mental health. You said that you have experienced anxiety attacks. This does not surprise me. Your home sounds like a stressful place and stress that is overwhelming can and certainly is, in this case, contributing to these anxiety attacks.

I wonder what your mother's history is. My guess is that she grew up in a home in which she was heavily criticized. This doesn't make it okay for your mother to try to micromanage you. Sometimes, though, it is helpful to have an understanding of why a mother would criticize and nitpick a daughter who is not only a good student but who seems to also be a good person who is trying hard to have a good relationship with her. Your mother's own history and childhood may get in her way of having a loving connection with you. That is really sad. Of course, you want your mother to love you and be proud of you. Every child wants that. You are in good company here.

I am glad that you have a good relationship with your father. I hope that your father expresses his support and love in a kind and clear manner. It does not seem that your mother has this ability.

I know that you want to have a better relationship with your mother and you want her to see you as you are rather than as a rebellious and immature teen. You have attempted to have discussions with your mother which have unfortunately been unsuccessful. I do not think that you should, as you suggested, submit to your mother. Those are your words and I assume that you mean continuing to have your mom criticize you while you passively nod in agreement. This is not a healthy option. You need to be your own person and this does not mean that you need to do everything that your mother either does in her own life or suggests for you. You do not need to be a carbon copy of your mother. Everyone is unique and has different ways of balancing their lives.

Your idea of standing up for yourself is a good one but we have to carefully discuss what that would look like given your mother's tendency to anger easily and make you feel bad.

Listen to what your mother has to say but try as hard as you possibly can to remind yourself that just because your mother says something doesn't mean that it is right or helpful. In fact, remind yourself that what she says may actually be problematic. Also, remind yourself that your mother has limitations. I am sure that you know this but this can be difficult to accept.

You mention that you would very much like to have a mother who is a confidante. It is a shame that this may not be possible because your mother is so judgmental. Your mother may, unfortunately, never be the ideal mother for you. I am so sorry to say this. This does not mean that she doesn't love you or isn't proud of you.

You write that it is helpful for you to talk to your friends. That is wonderful. It might be very helpful for you to also have the support of a good therapist. During this pandemic, you may be able to set up virtual sessions with a therapist who will help you deal with your anxiety attacks and with your relationship with your mother. I know that you have been reluctant to speak to a therapist because you fear your mother's reaction but I think that you will get so much good out of therapy . Once you have a new way of thinking about your relationship with your mother, you will be less concerned about her approval.

I wish you luck. Please consider everything that I have said and get back to me with any more questions or updates.

To find a therapist, please visit the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.

Barbara Greenberg Ph.D.

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We sit down at the dinner table every single night. She answers all the questions and she always gets them right.

And now and then, she’ll tell me I should go and take my bath. When I get back, I find she’s done my science and my math.

You’d think that I’d be overjoyed to never have to work. But every time she “helps me out” I nearly go berserk.

I ask if I can do it, but she shrugs off my requests. So all my grades are crummy since she doesn’t take my tests.

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The most influential person for me in my life is my mother. I have a very strong admiration and respect for my mother.

My mother is the first teacher of my life. She takes every care for me and sacrifices a lot for me. She is very dedicated to her work and her hardworking nature always enrapture me a lot.

My mother gets up at dawn and her daily routine starts before we get up from our bed. My mother can be called the manager of our family. She manages each and everything in our family. 

My mother cook’s delicious foods for us take care of us, go shopping, prays for us and does lots more for our family. My mother also teaches me and my brother/sister. She helps us in doing our homework. My mother is the backbone of my family.

150 words Essay on My Mother in English

(My Mother Essay for Class 6)

Mother is the most suitable word that I have learned so far. My mother is the most influential person for me in my life. She is not only hardworking but also very dedicated to her work. Early in the morning, she gets up before the sun rises and starts her daily activities.

My mother is a very beautiful and kind-hearted lady who manages everything at our home. I have special respect and admiration for my mother as she is my first teacher who not only taught the chapters from my books but also shows me the right path in life. She cooks food for us, takes proper care of each member of the family, goes for shopping, etc.

Though she remains busy all the time, she spares time for me and play with me, help me do my homework and guide me out in all activities. My mother supports me in my every activity. I love my mother and pray to God for her long life.

200 words Essay on My Mother in English

(My Mother Essay for Class 7)

Mother can’t be described in words. In my life, my mother is the person who occupies my heart the most. She always plays a vital role in shaping my life. My mother is a beautiful lady who takes care of me in every walk of my life.

Her busy schedule starts before the sun rises. She not only prepares food for us but also helps me with all my daily work. Whenever I find any difficulty in my studies my mother plays the role of teacher and solve my problem, when I get bored my mother plays the role of a friend and plays with me.

My mother plays a different role in our family. She spends a sleepless night when any member of our family falls sick and takes proper care of us. She can sacrifice with a smiling face for the benefit of the family.

My mother is very hardworking in nature. She works all day from morning to night. She guides me in every walk of my life. At a tender age, it was not easy to decide for me what was good or what was bad. But my mother is always with me to show me the right path of life.

250 words Essay on My Mother in English

(My Mother Essay for Class 8)

My mother is the all in all for me. I could see this beautiful world only because of her. She has brought me up with utmost care, love and affection. According to me, the mother is the most trustworthy friend for a person.

My mother is my best friend. I can share my good moments with her. During my bad times, I always find my mother with me. She supports me during those bad times. I have a strong admiration for my mother.

My mother is very hardworking and dedicated to her work. I have learned from her that hard work brings success. She does her work all day with a smiling face. She not only prepares delicious food for us but also she doesn’t forget to take care of us.

She is the decision-maker of our family. My father also seeks advice from my mother as she is excellent at making good decisions. We have four members in our family, me, my mother-father, and my younger sister.

My mother takes proper care of us equally. She also teaches me the moral value of life. Sometimes when I am stuck while doing my homework, my mother plays the role of my teacher and helps me in finishing my homework. She remains busy all the time.

Besides, my mother is a very kind-hearted lady. She always put her umbrella of love above our heads. I know I can’t find such a genuine and mighty love in this world besides my mother’s love.

Every child loves his/her mother. But the value of a mother can be felt by the one who doesn’t have anyone near to him/her to call ‘mother’. In my life, I want to see my mother’s smiling face in every walk of my life.

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300 words Essay on My Mother in English

(My Mother Essay for Class 9)

Mother is the first word of a child. As for me, my mother is the most precious gift of God for me. It is a very challenging task for me to describe her in words. For every child, the mother is the most caring and loving person they have ever met in life.

My mother also possesses all those qualities that a mother has. We have 6 members in our family; my father-mother, my grandparents and my younger sister and me. But my mother is the only member for whom we can call our house “A Home”.

My mother is an early riser. She gets up at dawn and starts her schedule. She takes proper care of us and feeds us different delicious food. My mother knows all the likes and dislikes of each and every member of our family.

She even remains alert and checks whether my grandparents have had their medicines on time or not. My grandfather calls my mother ‘the manager of the family’ as she can manage each and everything in the family.

I have grown up with the moral teachings of my mother. She guides me in every walk of my life. She understands my feelings and support me in my bad times and inspires me in my good moments.

My mother teaches me to be a disciplined, punctual and trustworthy person. My mother is a tree for our family who provides shade to us. Though she has to manage lots of work she remains calm and cool all the time.

She doesn’t lose her temper and patience even in difficult situations. There is a special bond of love between my mother and me and I always pray to God to keep my mother fit and healthy for forever.

450 words Essay on My Mother in English

(My Mother Essay for Class 10)

Famous poet George Eliot quotes

Life began with waking up

And loving my mother’s face

YES, we all start our day with our mother’s smiling face. My day started when my mother gets me up early in the morning. For me, my mom is the best example of love and kindness in this universe. She knows how to take care of us.

From the very tender age, I became a fan of her as I like my mom’s hardworking and dedicated nature. My mom sacrificed a lot in order to shape my life. She has brought me up with utmost love and care.

She could understand me even when I couldn’t utter a word. Mother is another name of true love. A mother loves his child selflessly and doesn’t expect or demand anything in return. My mother whom I call mom turns our house into a home.

My mother is the busiest person at our home. She gets up much before the sun rises and start to perform her duty. She cooks food for us, takes care of us, goes shopping and even plans our future too.

In our family, my mother plans how to spend and how to save for the future. My mom was my first teacher. She also plays a vital role in shaping my moral character. She doesn’t even forget to take care of our health.

Whenever any one of our family members falls sick, my mother spends a sleepless night and sits beside him/her and take care of him/her for the whole night. My mom never tires of her responsibility. My father also depends on her whenever he finds any difficulty in taking any serious decision.

The word mother is full of emotion and love. The value of this sweet word is truly felt by those children who don’t have anyone to call ‘mother’. So the one who has his/her mother beside them should feel proud.

But in today’s world, some wicked children consider their mother a burden when she gets old. The person who spends all her life for their children become a burden for their child at the last moment of her life.

Some selfish child even doesn’t bother to send his/her mom to old age home. This is really a shame and unfortunate incident as well. The government should keep an eye to those incidents and should take those shameless children in judicial custody.

I want to stand with my mother like a shadow all the time. I know today I am here only because of her. So I want to serve my mother for the rest of my life. I also want to build my carrier so that my mom feels proud of me.

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Paragraph on My Mother in English

Mother is not a word, it is an emotion. My mother is my role model and she is the best mother in the world. Everyone thinks so because there is nothing amazing in this world like a mother’s love for her children.

A person who enjoys mother’s love considers himself as one of the luckiest people in the world. The love of a mother can never be expressed in words or activities; rather it can be felt in deep of our heart.

In a Family the Leadership Quality is maintained by Mother as She knows exactly when to push and when to Let go.

My Mother is my inspiration like everyone else. She is the woman whom I admire most and she has influenced me a lot throughout my lives.

In terms of love and care, nobody can take the place of a mother. As a child, our initial Schooling is said to be started in our home in the guidance of our mother. We can call our mother as our First Teacher as well as our first best friend.

My mother wakes up very early in the morning. After preparing and serving breakfast for all of us, she used to drop us to school. Again in the evening, she came to pick us up from School, help us in doing our assignments, and prepare dinner.

She woke up to prepare dinner for us in her sickness also. In addition to her day to day household works; My Mother is the one who spends her sleepless nights if any family members feel sick. She is always very concerned about our health, education, character, happiness etc.

She becomes happy in our happiness and feels sad in our sadness. Moreover, she guides us to do always the right things in life and choose the right path. A Mother is like NATURE who always tries to give us as much as possible and never take back anything in return. May 13th is declared as the “Mothers Day” to pay thankfulness to the mothers.

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Ask Amy: I think my mom is trying to manipulate me

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Dear Amy: I live four hours from my elderly widowed mother. I will be in her area for a week very soon doing some work, and I plan to take her for brunch on the Sunday that I am there. She does not drive. Making the arrangements, she managed to slide in, “I thought you might like to go to church with me.” Meaning: “I want you to take me to church before brunch.”

Even though I don’t disagree with the church’s teachings, I just don’t want to go. My mother essentially would not take no for an answer. I felt so pressured that finally I lied and said I had a meeting early that afternoon. I feel manipulated. I would likely have accepted her request with a kinder attitude if she didn’t have a history of doing this.

The incident that stays in my mind is when my husband and I invited her out to dinner for her birthday. We were planning to make the four-hour trip to take her out. The day before, I found out from someone else that she had, behind my back, invited my estranged sister and her husband. We ended up staying home.

Now I can’t seem to get past the idea of her tricking and manipulating me. I’m probably angrier than I need to be. I also have a sense of guilt about the whole thing. Do you have any advice? Should I cave in and take her to church? If I’m being hardhearted, please tell me.

— Tricked In Illinois

Tricked: Your mother pushes your buttons because of her history of being manipulative, at least when it comes to you. However, sometimes an elderly woman just wants to go to church, and she will resort to being sneaky in order to get there. (Don’t you remember what it was like to be a teen without a car, and that feeling of always having to shag rides?)

Unfortunately, you have a knee-jerk reaction to your mother; this likely goes way back in your shared history. But — I repeat — sometimes an elderly woman just wants to go to church. Yes, you are angrier than you need to be, but you are on high-alert and have overcompensated. (By the way, your lie to get out of this is also sneaky.)

Yes, you should cave and take her to church. You can get her seated and sit in your car or the fellowship hall until the service has ended. You should also investigate any programs the church might have to give rides to elders. Having this social lifeline might cause your mother to be less sneaky on Sundays.

After church, you should do your best to speak with your mother very honestly about what happened on her birthday. Use “I statements” and be polite, frank and authentic regarding how this made you feel.

Dear Amy: I just learned that my wife’s spending is out of control. Several years ago, she got into financial trouble with a credit card debt of around $6,000. She told me about it and I bailed her out.

Last week, she said it had happened again. I took a look at her credit card statement and saw she was owing on charges left over from Christmas and some vacation travel we had taken. I agreed to help her out again. Then she admitted to me that she had another card and that she owes almost $10,000 on it, due to gambling. This is very shocking. I didn’t even know she gambled. She feels terrible. I could probably cover this, too, but I don’t know if that’s the right thing to do.

— Concerned

Concerned: Your wife should get professional help for a gambling addiction right away. You and she should meet with a therapist who specializes in this. As with other addictions, you should approach this as a very serious illness which requires treatment.

Additionally, you should also get legal and financial advice about how to protect your property and assets from her debts. The ease and ubiquity of online gambling makes it very easy for people to hide their addiction, until the financial consequences force them to face it.

Dear Amy: Your writing often makes me laugh, but your response to “ Future Dad ” was the tops. I smiled when I read your first line: “Hell to the no.” I haven’t heard that phrase in a long time, and it’s time for a comeback.

Laurie: As long as you’re laughing with me, and not at me …

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